Now, Chinese women are dating and marrying foreign men in ever greater numbers.
Which leads us to ask why Chinese girls are so interested in foreign men?
Over time, the difficult scholar exams were transformed into Modern China’s college entrance exam 高考 (gāo kǎo.) Gao Kao is a standardized exam that determines what university you can enter (and whether you can even enter university).
High school days are the busiest for teenagers because of the rigorous school work and preparation needed for .
Of course, every individual relationship is different.
Consider, too, the generational issue at play here: The lovely lady you’ve been crushing on’s parents and grandparents are the ones exerting that pressure to get married, even though she herself may not feel that she’s ready or interested.
That's because her grandparents' and possibly (depending on where in China she is from) her parents still value marital stability above all else in their time, given the instability and volatility of their eras.
China has less casual dating than America, and this has a lot to do with China’s conservative history.
During Imperial China, becoming a scholar was a huge priority because it meant wealth and status for families (which in turn meant better marriage matches).
The most generic and straightforward answer is that your relationship with the Western person is going to be more casual.