What great things are you expecting polyamory to bring to your life? Someone to go with you to movies that your partner hates? There are lots of good reasons to get into polyamory, and making it clear to yourself which things are most important to you will help guide your decisions.If you’re opening up an existing relationship, it’s good for you to know what your partner is hoping to gain and vice versa.That means that if four people are in a polyfidelity relationship, they are allowed to sleep with each other, but no one else outside their foursome. Then there’s “polyaffectivity,” which “emphasizes the emotional connection among people who are not lovers but share a lover in common,” says Sheff, who made up the term.
Terisa Greenan and her boyfriend, Matt, are enjoying a rare day of Seattle sun, sharing a beet carpaccio on the patio of a local restaurant.My polyamorous orientation is a fixed trait and not something for me to overcome. While people can and do change their minds about polyamory, your best bet is to assume it’s never going to happen.So you’ve been reading about polyamory and have decided it’s something you want to try.We live in a mononormative culture that tells us relationships are only valid when they’re exclusive.Mono/poly relationships challenge this unwritten rule because only one partner remains monogamous. As a polyamorous person, I’ve seen up close how a monogamist handles such a situation. She was easily one of the best metamours I’ve ever had.(“Metamour” refers to your partner’s other partners.