So one night, during a romantic dinner at my favorite Italian bistro (I'd insisted that we finally go somewhere other than our apartments), I announced, "I don't think we have what it takes to make it in the long run." After six months of ordering takeout and sleeping over, we were breaking up on our first real date.This wasn't the only time I'd fast-forwarded to the sex.Charmingly boyish now seemed plain immature, and enthusiastic was more like hyper.
"I spoke with a young man in his early to mid-20s who told me that if he didn't have sex on the first or second night, he'd move on to the next person," she recalls.Not long ago, hoping to silence my moaning about a particularly rough dating drought, a girlfriend volunteered to fix me up with her old friend T. After a day of message volleying, we agreed to talk on the phone that night. Soon enough, though, the mornings after brought a sinking "this isn't going to work" feeling. I wanted to speed things along—finally I'd found someone worthy of my attention—and I suggested we meet right that minute. From then on we were coupled up, quite literally, since we spent most of our time horizontal in his place or mine."It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters."Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.